Hello, ladies! I’m back, with some pretty good news.
I had a talk with my hubby last Monday, and it didn’t go so well. He was OK with the NFP, at first. Then I discussed some other changes in the marital act and he lost it. I really learned a lot about his attitude toward “the Church”, and authority, and abortion. So I let it go and let him have some time to cool off, think about things and waited for his reply.
His response was to e-mail me. Ugh! Not the best way to communicate. Especially since we had a super busy week and I didn’t check my e-mail until Thursday at 11pm!! So for 3 days, he’s waiting for me to discuss the e-mail (which I didn’t know about) and I’m waiting for him to sit down and talk face to face. Very tense!
Anyway, we finally did talk again. He realized I’m not using NFP to trick into having another baby right away (watch I’ll get pregnant the first month! :doh2: ). And I explained how I don’t blindly follow arbitrary rules set up by the “Church”, but follow rules set down by God, because it makes sense to me to do so. It’s amazing that I never realized his resentment toward what he apparently sees as an evil institution robbing man of his ability to enjoy life.
After a long talk, I think I got him to realize we can still have a full sex life, but there a few things that I can’t do anymore. We ended up in a good place, and will be studying NFP together. I told him I’ll never mention his coming to church again, but he’s always invited, and he knows I want him to come.
I want to thank you for all of your prayers and thoughts. We still have a long way to go, but I am confident in the power of prayer.
I also have to share my story of the green scapular. I was given one by my parents shortly after my son was born. At the time, I was not going to church, and didn’t think much of it - I didn’t even understand what it was for. I was pretty overwhelmed with the new baby and other personal things going on, so I stuck in my nightstand drawer and forgot all about it (until I read this thread).
Several months later I started going back to church again, and thus my reversion began. I know the green scapular is more about conversion, but I think it applies here too!! So now that I know about it, I pray with it daily for my husband. Pretty cool, huh! :getholy:
Hope all is well with you, and you’re still in my prayers!