But then…why would God punish someone who exercises the free will He has lovingly given them, and decides not to have the kind of relationship He offers?
That doesn’t sound so much like free will. It’s sounds more like…blackmail?
(no offense intended)
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I think this is based on a misunderstanding of Christianity. Sin is the abdication of free will and, hence, the renouncing of what God created each of us to be.
The “fact” of free will makes it possible renounce it. However, sin is not essentially in the exercise of free will, but rather turning one’s back on free will which is only possible to someone with free will. In a very real sense, hell is renouncing our very “self,” which is the gift that God has given to each of us. Hell is the complete alienation from one’s true “self” which is the self that God creates.
It is not blackmail because the gift God makes available is our true “self,” our birthright, and our freedom, which exists eternally, but which, like Esau, we spurn for the sake of some false conception that we prefer over the eternal “gift” that God makes available.
It is not blackmail, because, properly speaking, it is NOT that God dangles some external good like a carrot in front of us with the proviso that we must choose it or suffer hell. It is our very self that God holds out to us to choose or reject.
It is THAT personhood, THAT quality of being, that we must attain by actively “becoming” what God has created. Our “destiny” is becoming our true self in God, the fullness of our being in Being. He has provided everything we require to “get there” through grace. The rest is up to us. We can abdicate our destiny or fulfill it by cooperation with grace.
If we don’t become our true “selves” by our own neglect or malice, God “owes” us nothing more, he made “everything” possible and we snubbed our noses at it. By our own choice, not attaining our real self will end us up in a broken state of existence, which is hell.
The only way hell, as a possibility, could have been avoided by God, is for him not to have made the possibility of our self even possible. His only options were 1) no possibility of self or 2) self with the possibility that the self would not be achieved. That achievement can only be in the hands of the human individual God creates.
God cannot force us to become a real self because that is a choice we must make FOR ourselves. He can create the possibility, but we must accept and fulfill it.
This goes back to the question of why God does not foresee and not create those who will end up in hell. Creating a “self” or person is not the same as creating a tree or a star. Being a person or “self” is something that requires the full cooperation of the self or person. This is why the creation of a human person is a process that takes place through time. God requires me to create me. He cannot do that without me.