E
epan
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Tiny percentage 11 or under? Forgive me, if I seem uncharitable, but my definition of pedophilia is when the victim is too young to give consent. I don’t know how many 14 year olds whom you know that are ready for sexual relations with an adult.Yes. The point being that the priest abuse was not pedophilia which is very young children, those who have not started to develop sexually and are under 13. While some were in that range, your own statistics noted a tiny percentage 11 or under. Does this make it any more excusable? No. But the point is that the priests were more likely dealing with SSA as well, not just wanting sexual relations with pre-pubescent children. My understanding is that the behavior is called pedastry. Hair splitting perhaps but the media used the term pedophilia which was even more perjorative. In addition at the time it was thought the priests were “cured” and thus sent back into other parishes which proved to be disasterous.
Lisa
According to the Fay report 22% were age 10 years or less, and 51% were 10-14. My limited understanding of pedophiles leads me to believe that the majority of them go for victim just entering puberty. These statistics bear that out.
I guess I was a cute kid, because sexual predators approached me a number of times. One early in the morning when I was walking around a camp site, at the age of 6. One parked outside of a summer YMCA day camp, when I was 9. My Big Brother of America (who was also the head umpire for the Little League for a very large city), at my age of 12. The director of the teen center where I boxed, at my age of 14. A stranger who offered me money, when I was 15.
Based on my own experience, I would say that I was able to give informed consent at the age of 15 or 16. I chose to say “no”. The guy asked once or twice more, but was never threatening. At that age, I was also able to defend myself fairly well.
Of the earlier experiences, one of them was forced on me - the director of the teen center cornered me in a dark room, after a boxing workout. He got his hands into my pants, and said that he wanted to “play a game”. I hit him as hard is I could, which took him by surprise, and I escaped unharmed. The big brother of america, suggested as one of our activities that we “wrestle”, which was fine with me. I liked wrestling and boxing. However, it turned out that he liked wrestling in jock straps. I was still OK with that, though it was starting to get creepy. The next step was that the loser had to give the winner a massage. That was definitely creepy, and I ended the relationship. The other instances were all verbal approaches, and nothing happened, because I refused them and ran away.
Sorry, but based on my own experiences, and on my knowledge of kids, I don’t buy the argument that an 11-14 year old is capable of giving informed consent, or necessarily resisting the advances of an older predator, particularly one who is in a trusted relationship, or position of authority.