I realize that since you appear to be a serious Catholic, you would believe all the Church’s teachings to be valid, and by the Church’s definition, applicable to all people.
The thing is, to those of us who don’t believe the Church is valid, it’s rules simply don’t apply. The consequences (and expected rewards for that matter) are all post death - with no proof any of it is accurately described by the Church - you just have your belief. And while beliefs, especially strongly held beliefs, are a good predictor of a person’s behavior and reactions to stimuli, belief in and of itself is hardly “proof” of anything.
The rules apply if they are true, regardless if you believe them. If I say don’t go swimming there because there are pirhanna in the waters, and you say that’s nonsense because pirhanna are unknown in these water, you swim at your peril if you don’t do proper investigation.
Right there is a huge reason for “Catholic bashing”. This insistence that what you merely believe applies to everyone else with this “you’re going to hell” nonsense. It’s these claims that can’t be backed up or “proven” until after death. No, I don’t accept the Bible as being the undistorted “Word of God” (or any scripture or spiritual writing of any religion or philosophy for that matter). Without that assumption, you have nothing.
The Catholic Church has much documented evidence of miracles associated with canonized saints that gives credence to its assertions due the incredible events that are associated with its most ardent practitioners. One may discount this as hoax, but like the pirhanna example shouldn’t it be investigated?
In light of that, a lot of the comments here complaining about being picked on for being Catholic appear as so much whining. To be clear, I do believe there are a lot of people who simple “bash” for no good reason and those you have every justification for complaining about. There are others, like myself, who honestly feel that Catholic Church leaders have overstepped the bounds of believability and made many simply unsupportable claims. Except for their continual pressure to impose their so called teachings on non-Catholics, there wouldn’t be nearly the same level of backlash.
Here I believe that you go over the top in your criticisms. The Catholic Church teaches its beliefs and invites non-Catholics to investigate their beliefs. On the political scene, their objection to Catholic politicians who support serious intrinsic evils as exemplified by the human life issues, the Catholic Church is simply saying such a politician is giving scandal by receiving the Holy Eucharist. In this case, the Catholic Church is simply enforcing house rules on house members regarding sacred practices. If you are talking about instructing Catholics on how to form their consciences when voting for candidates against what it deems as grave evils in our society, then you are asking the Catholic to rescind his voting privileges on matters of society that are of great concern. The mantra “Freedom from Religion” is nonsense if one inspects the whole set of laws that exist today. In fact, all the laws are an enforcement of religion or morality of the majority consensus. To remove all laws that hint of imposition of religion & morality would be the removal of all law.
So, challenging and disputing Catholic teachings/beliefs can not automatically be considered “bashing”. Try thinking of intelligent confrontations as stimulating your own spiritual growth into digging deeper into your faith. By this, I certainly don’t mean to simply find more quotes to use as comebacks. Dig beyond the words to get to the substance. This would benefit everyone, regardless of which “side” they’re on or what conclusions they come to.
I, for one, have found your criticisms sound and not bashing, though colored by your worldview as are my views, throughout this thread. Your criticisms about questioning authority are well founded, but like the pirhanna example, should be investigated thoroughly with an open mind, which I hope and suspect you are doing.
While I don’t have any reason to ever rejoin the Catholic Church, I don’t feel everyone should leave it either. I feel everyone should dig deeper into their spiritual lives, getting more and more into the substance beyond all these superficial words and teachings and rules and dogmas and beliefs. Some people will invariably decide to leave the Church, some with become stronger in their faith and some outsiders will join. In any case, mere membership and belief - no matter how strongly held - guarantees you absolutely nothing after death.
Membership, belief, and practice guarantees you life eternal in heaven, if Jesus is God and the Bible is substantively the inspired Word of God, allowing for the human portrayal factor. The “Do as I say, not as I do” problem of man’s tendency to sin which affects every member of the Church will be the greatest enemy the Catholic Church has in drawing people to the incredible facts of our belief system. Maybe that is why so little is attributed to the words of Joseph and Mary in the Bible. Maybe evangelization is exactly “Preach the Gospel. If necessary, use words.”
May God bless you (and your circle of family, friends and acquaintances) in His own way with ever transcending spiritual growth, far beyond anything you or I or any religious authority can imagine.