Why take a chance getting married?
Well, there is really no ‘chance’ about it. When you have an annual exam, a woman ***is *** ‘exposing’ herself. Doctors, 99.9% of the time, are not alone, and are examining women with nurses alongside them…I’m not seeing where all these violations are occuring. Maybe 30 years ago, but no longer. Largely, nurses being required to be in the room with female or male doctors, is for that very reason.
Yeah not powerful at all when you husband thinks views like this are absurd and a risk to his wife’s health.
To each their own. It sounds like your marriage is paying the price…
Whatevergirl…It seems that you perhaps need to go back and review this entire thread. I would say the percentage you quoted about doctors having an assistant present is greatly over exherted. It’s probably more like 75/25. Plus, there’s the exposure issue, of a woman having to expose herself to another male (other than her husband). Additionally, the med assistant usually is not viewing the exam from the footend of the table, and isn’t usually timing the exam.
bias?
I’m glad you said this, Homers. We are getting somewhere with you, now. We’re getting to the heart of the matter.
“How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove that splinter from your eye,’ while the wooden beam is in your eye?”
Pretty HIGH I would think!
Homers, I replied below…
Real numbers, its really time for you to put up or shut up on the actual number of assaults that happen. Your opinion on what you think the number is based on your own distorted view of what is sexual holds no water.
Thank you for this kind and articulate response. And for the record, I do not associate intimacy with doctor visits, which is to say that I don’t expect for something to occur, while my wife is at the doctors office, but that I prefer to try to avoid the “chance” of something occuring. I realize that yearly check-ups are important for women, and that the perception of intimacy for the marriage is also important. Hopefully, there is a common-ground between both of these desires.I’m glad you said this, Homers. We are getting somewhere with you, now. We’re getting to the heart of the matter.
Homers…there’s NOTHING wrong with you coming out and asking your wife to NOT see a male ob/gyn. It doesn’t mean you are insecure, etc…(it’s not intimacy though, to go to the doctor, but we’re getting there lol)
So that being said…if this is what you and your wife agree on, that is great. It doesn’t mean other women don’t love their spouses, if they see a male ob/gyn. Now, that’s just silly to even think something like that. My dh never minded me seeing a male doctor, he viewed it as a professional thing. Your view of your wife seeing a male doctor is somehow a break in the intimacy bond between the two of you. That is the difference between your thoughts, and others thoughts about it here. I really don’t think any woman would see a male ob/gyn because they disrespect the intimate bond with their husbands. They just don’t view it as intimate–because it isn’t.
We are not trying to convince you to change your mind about your wife seeing male doctors…but we are hopeful that you’ll see that your view of doctors’ visits needs to be tweaked…it’s not about intimacy. And women who see male physicians are not trying to tempt other men, or fate, or ‘create’ intimacy with them.
Homers–you infer here something different though:
Yes, I’m just guessing. lolWhatevergirl–not all Baptists believe the same things (whether dancing, drinking, etc are acceptable). I’m not familiar with the particulars, but know there are numerous Baptist denominations. Without knowing which denomination Homers is a part of, it is not possible to guess his religious guidance.
