Would this be considered "shacking up?"

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OldAgeGuru said:
I’d say dating for four years proves there’s a level of commitment there. I love him so I deal with the things he does that annoy me,both in the outside world and in our apartment.
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Guru, is your boyfriend in the service?
 
No he’s an engineer/ Sr designer for a large defense contractor. He’s often sent for extensive amounts of time for work to exotic locales. Me? I get to drive 3 miles to a Boston suburb and take care of his cats for months at a time. Even when we weren’t living together I still ended up driving 30 miles and taking care of demonically possessed felines for months on end.
 
OldAgeGuru said:
No he’s an engineer/ Sr designer for a large defense contractor. He’s often sent for extensive amounts of time for work to exotic locales. Me? I get to drive 3 miles to a Boston suburb and take care of his cats for months at a time. Even when we weren’t living together I still ended up driving 30 miles and taking care of demonically possessed felines for months on end.
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😛 Well I feel for you on that end. I think cats are too intelligent for me, IMHO. Reminds me of my reaction to my sister’s cat. shudder
 
Im just a dumb teen but ive noticed that people that answer questions here dont pay much attention to whats in your heart and what you and god know is true and care more about what might happen or what other people think about you. I think they mean well and all but i think my relationshup with god is way more important than what other people think about me.

:o = Aly!
 
hasikelee said:
😛 Well I feel for you on that end. I think cats are too intelligent for me, IMHO. Reminds me of my reaction to my sister’s cat. shudder
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They are attack kitties. You walk in the door and they fly at your face. They stalk you. And when they look at you, you can tell they are plotting your gruesome untimely demise.
 
OldAgeGuru said:
They are attack kitties. You walk in the door and they fly at your face. They stalk you. And when they look at you, you can tell they are plotting your gruesome untimely demise.
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Oh man, I liked you up until that comment about cats. Maybe it’s because you see too much of yourself in them? They don’t care what people think, either 😛

I love both dogs and cats, but I will admit that I get more out of my relationships with dogs, cats ALLOW me to be their friend…but they don’t put me permanently on their buddy lists.
 
Aly said:
Im just a dumb teen but ive noticed that people that answer questions here dont pay much attention to whats in your heart and what you and god know is true and care more about what might happen or what other people think about you. I think they mean well and all but i think my relationshup with god is way more important than what other people think about me.

:o = Aly!
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But if they’re looking at you and thinking, “Oh, the Catholic Church doesn’t take its teachings on Chastity very seriously, does it, since that girl is allowed to go to Church, even though she’s living in with a boy - well, if a well-trained Catholic girl can’t keep her pants on, and the Church is okay with it, then obviously God won’t mind whatever I do - I can live with my boyfriend, too - maybe we’ll even have a few kids together so that I can go on welfare, and God won’t mind a bit - maybe that’s even His holy will for my life!”

Leading other people to think it’s okay to commit sin is just as much of a sin as doing the sin yourself.
 
Karianne said:
Oh man, I liked you up until that comment about cats. Maybe it’s because you see too much of yourself in them? They don’t care what people think, either 😛

I love both dogs and cats, but I will admit that I get more out of my relationships with dogs, cats ALLOW me to be their friend…but they don’t put me permanently on their buddy lists.
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We have a dog too, he’s mine, he’s a spoiled prince, I’m an overly indulgent mommy to him. We also have salt water fishtank, and several freshwater tanks and an aquatic turtle. I love the cats, I’d be very sad if something happens to them, I just prefer not to have to disengage the claws from my sweater everytime I get home!

I have to say I’m not sure how to take the “well trained Catholic girl” comment though. I’ll choose to take it as a complement on my knowledge of my faith as opposed to me being potty trained or something. 🙂
 
:rolleyes: WoW! Thats WAY 2 much 4 me! I thought i was suppoze to worry about me and not about every body else. I say what other people do and their love 4 god is their business and i dindt know that me letting someone think that sin is OK is the same as doing the sin. Izthat in the bible somewhere? I say let everybody worry about themselves!

😉 - Aly
 
Aly said:
:rolleyes: WoW! Thats WAY 2 much 4 me! I thought i was suppoze to worry about me and not about every body else. I say what other people do and their love 4 god is their business and i dindt know that me letting someone think that sin is OK is the same as doing the sin. Izthat in the bible somewhere? I say let everybody worry about themselves!

😉 - Aly
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We are all part of the mystical Body of Christ. Yes, we need to care for each other. Yes, we need to be on guard so our actions are not the cause of another to stumble. Yes, that is in the bible.
 
Aly said:
Izthat in the bible somewhere?
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Yes, it is. In Luke 17:1-3, Jesus told us that it would be better for someone who sets a bad example to others, if, instead of setting the bad example, they would have had a giant rock tied around their neck, and they were dropped into the sea before they had a chance to set the bad example.
I say let everybody worry about themselves!
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Jesus disagrees - Jesus says, “Love one another as I have loved you.” (We find that in John 13:34)

How does Jesus love us? Jesus always sets a good example for us, and doesn’t teach us how to do things that are going to be bad for us.
 
OldAgeGuru said:
We have a dog too, he’s mine, he’s a spoiled prince, I’m an overly indulgent mommy to him. We also have salt water fishtank, and several freshwater tanks and an aquatic turtle. I love the cats, I’d be very sad if something happens to them, I just prefer not to have to disengage the claws from my sweater everytime I get home!

I have to say I’m not sure how to take the “well trained Catholic girl” comment though. I’ll choose to take it as a complement on my knowledge of my faith as opposed to me being potty trained or something. 🙂
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No matter what I do (fancy feast, hand made home grown catnip toys, fresh kitty litter) the cats I like to pretend that I own are ungrateful.

LOL to the well trained part. Yer such a pottymouth!

I have no issue with who you live with, btw, it’s none of my business.
 
jmcrae said:
Yes, it is. In Luke 17:1-3, Jesus told us that it would be better for someone who sets a bad example to others, if, instead of setting the bad example, they would have had a giant rock tied around their neck, and they were dropped into the sea before they had a chance to set the bad example.

Jesus disagrees - Jesus says, “Love one another as I have loved you.” (We find that in John 13:34)

How does Jesus love us? Jesus always sets a good example for us, and doesn’t teach us how to do things that are going to be bad for us.
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interesting, I thought that the verse you refer to is about people who hurt children. Are you totally sure of your source quote?
 
Karianne said:
No matter what I do (fancy feast, hand made home grown catnip toys, fresh kitty litter) the cats I like to pretend that I own are ungrateful.

LOL to the well trained part. Yer such a pottymouth!

I have no issue with who you live with, btw, it’s none of my business.
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🙂 I understand that people have views that they hold sacred, I think I’m just much more of a live and let live person. People in the end are held to their choices. While people as individuals want to change/ save the world, ultimately people make their own decisions. I wouldn’ t have stated that I was “shacking up with my boyfriend” if I a) wasn’t ok with the fact that my boyfriend happens to be my roommate, and b) there weren’t extenuating circumstances for me living with him. c) didn’t think we were going to get married. and d) couldn’t take the criticism… this stuff is nothing… you should have met my old boss.
 
Karianne said:
interesting, I thought that the verse you refer to is about people who hurt children. Are you totally sure of your source quote?
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I think that bible verse trancends the lesson not to hurt children. He used the children as an example.
 
Karianne said:
interesting, I thought that the verse you refer to is about people who hurt children. Are you totally sure of your source quote?
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“Children” is a reference to everyone who is still learning the ways of God; it’s not talking only about little kids. Remember that St. John when writing to the congregations, called them “my little children,” but we know that he hadn’t left a bunch of little kids to fend for themselves - these were adults to whom he was writing.

“Leading them astray” means both to teach them wrongly and to set a poor example for them.

If we say that we are Catholic, then we have to show the world a Catholic lifestyle - we can’t say, “It’s nobody else’s business,” because, like it or not, people do look to us to show them what God requires - that’s why pedophile and philandering Catholic priests get so much news coverage, but pedophile or philandering non-Catholics - even teachers, scout leaders, parents, and coaches, don’t make the news, because nobody is looking to them to set the example of right behaviour - it’s not “news” when a sinner sins, but it’s front page with a special pull-out section news when a Catholic (and especially a priest, but any Catholic) sins, because Catholics are the ones who are supposed to be setting the good example.
 
OldAgeGuru said:
🙂 I understand that people have views that they hold sacred, I think I’m just much more of a live and let live person. People in the end are held to their choices. While people as individuals want to change/ save the world, ultimately people make their own decisions. I wouldn’ t have stated that I was “shacking up with my boyfriend” if I a) wasn’t ok with the fact that my boyfriend happens to be my roommate, and b) there weren’t extenuating circumstances for me living with him. c) didn’t think we were going to get married. and d) couldn’t take the criticism… this stuff is nothing… you should have met my old boss.
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I don’t think that term ‘shacking up’ is very nice. Two folks living together in peace and harmony, not abusing each other or their pets and most of all, sharing expenses in this money hungry society just doesn’t worry me.
There are many on this site who seem to think that their views are the only ones that count, or that they can claim to be more Catholic than me because I think that they’re wrong.

Your old boss was a self righteous Nosy Parker, too?
 
jmcrae said:
“Children” is a reference to everyone who is still learning the ways of God; it’s not talking only about little kids. Remember that St. John when writing to the congregations, called them “my little children,” but we know that he hadn’t left a bunch of little kids to fend for themselves - these were adults to whom he was writing.

“Leading them astray” means both to teach them wrongly and to set a poor example for them.

If we say that we are Catholic, then we have to show the world a Catholic lifestyle - we can’t say, “It’s nobody else’s business,” because, like it or not, people do look to us to show them what God requires - that’s why pedophile and philandering Catholic priests get so much news coverage, but pedophile or philandering non-Catholics - even teachers, scout leaders, parents, and coaches, don’t make the news, because nobody is looking to them to set the example of right behaviour - it’s not “news” when a sinner sins, but it’s front page with a special pull-out section news when a Catholic (and especially a priest, but any Catholic) sins, because Catholics are the ones who are supposed to be setting the good example.
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But wasn’t that right after he said to suffer the little children to come to Him?
I’ve always interpreted it as a severe warning to those who would hurt kids.
 
Karianne said:
I never saw it that way, nor did I interpret it that way.
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My priest used that same bible verse in reference to pre-marital sex. (I go to the Catholic Student Center for mass, so pre-marital sex is a hot topic there.) He basically was saying that if a young man leads his girlfriend into sexual activity (or vice versa), then it is better for him (or her) to have a millstone tied around his neck and be thrown into the sea.
 
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